Thursday, March 4, 2010

The blame

A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the gem of their eyes. When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for office so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot the matter.
The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle fascinated by its color and drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed, the mother hurried him to the hospital. He died.
The mother was stunned! She was terrified how she was going to face her husband. When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just five words.

1. What were the five words?
2. What is the implication of this story?
If you were the father, what would your words be when you meet the wife?
If you were the mother, what would your words be when you meet the husband?

The husband just said "I am with you Darling".
The husband's totally unexpected reaction is a proactive behavior. The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life...
There is no point in finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not have happened. No one is to be blamed. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her. If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world.
"A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step."
Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.

Very often we spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to be blamed, whether in a relationship, in a job, in school, in the family, or with the people we know when things go wrong. And, with this mental attitude, everything there after is bound to fail. Blame is the start of divide and discord. Blame never concord. But it is indeed very difficult to practice like in the story above because blame is anger or hate-based. And it blinds ! The mind justifies when it is clouded with blame.

“Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference." – Winston Churchill